I was doing a mind-map for my company and I thought how good it would be if I knew this tool earlier in my life. Then I thought about many things that I wished to have known earlier in my life.
1. God.
This is an easy one. Knowing God gives insight to life because He is the creator of all things. Through Him, I begin to understand the purpose of life, I begin to appreciate myself, I begin to gain self-confidence, I begin to love, I begin to forgive, I begin to have insight & knowledge, I begin to serve, and most importantly, I begin to live.
2. It's ok to be weak.
I used to want to "be" strong, clever, confident, etc. I pumped it all up for show. Then I realised how shallow I was. I begin to feel weak, very weak. and I hated myself for that. That wasn't what I wanted. I did a lot of things to show that I wasn't weak. In a way, I proved that to other people - I earned more, I talked better, I knew more people... But I couldn't convince myself. Until I understood that it is ok to be weak. It is thru acknowledging weakness that I begin to be strong. I started to appreciate myself and feel a subtle inner-confidence grow in me. I begin to really "be" me. That is the most satisfying experience.
3. Speed reading.
I still haven't touched this topic yet. But I really wished that I could read faster.
4. Mind-mapping.
This has to be one of the best tools I picked up. It helps me organize my thoughts in large perspective, zoom to focus on the details, jump straight back to the big picture. And it's all at one glance!
5. Confrontation is not always a bad thing.
Since young, I felt that confrontation equals quarrel, spoilt relationships, etc. That's why I was very quiet throughout my study life. Chinese teaching is to be best in the middle, not too posh, not too low. Until something very bad happened to me because I didn't speak up for myself. I thought that people "should" understand. Now I know that I have to fight for the right to speak when I have to. That's how relationship grow. We have to seek to be understood by the ones we truly love.
6. Each individual has different expectations of one another.
This is the one most important lesson I learned regarding relationship. Each of us are uniquely different from one another. We think differently, feel differently, have different likes and dislikes, different habits, different background, etc. So logically, we will have different view points for everything under the sun. The funny thing is that how little people notice this. Many a times I have unsolvable quarrels is because of different expectations we have of each other. Why I say unsolvable is because until we understand this, we wouldn't understand why he is like this or why is she like that? It's a unsolvable perception problem. And the other party feels disrespected and hurt.
7. Time management.
Makes me spend my time better, and work a lot more enjoyable.
8. Music.
I didn't learn until 26. At the age of 8, my music teacher said I was hopeless because I was naughty, and from then on, I thought that I didn't have a flare in music...
1. God.
This is an easy one. Knowing God gives insight to life because He is the creator of all things. Through Him, I begin to understand the purpose of life, I begin to appreciate myself, I begin to gain self-confidence, I begin to love, I begin to forgive, I begin to have insight & knowledge, I begin to serve, and most importantly, I begin to live.
2. It's ok to be weak.
I used to want to "be" strong, clever, confident, etc. I pumped it all up for show. Then I realised how shallow I was. I begin to feel weak, very weak. and I hated myself for that. That wasn't what I wanted. I did a lot of things to show that I wasn't weak. In a way, I proved that to other people - I earned more, I talked better, I knew more people... But I couldn't convince myself. Until I understood that it is ok to be weak. It is thru acknowledging weakness that I begin to be strong. I started to appreciate myself and feel a subtle inner-confidence grow in me. I begin to really "be" me. That is the most satisfying experience.
3. Speed reading.
I still haven't touched this topic yet. But I really wished that I could read faster.
4. Mind-mapping.
This has to be one of the best tools I picked up. It helps me organize my thoughts in large perspective, zoom to focus on the details, jump straight back to the big picture. And it's all at one glance!
5. Confrontation is not always a bad thing.
Since young, I felt that confrontation equals quarrel, spoilt relationships, etc. That's why I was very quiet throughout my study life. Chinese teaching is to be best in the middle, not too posh, not too low. Until something very bad happened to me because I didn't speak up for myself. I thought that people "should" understand. Now I know that I have to fight for the right to speak when I have to. That's how relationship grow. We have to seek to be understood by the ones we truly love.
6. Each individual has different expectations of one another.
This is the one most important lesson I learned regarding relationship. Each of us are uniquely different from one another. We think differently, feel differently, have different likes and dislikes, different habits, different background, etc. So logically, we will have different view points for everything under the sun. The funny thing is that how little people notice this. Many a times I have unsolvable quarrels is because of different expectations we have of each other. Why I say unsolvable is because until we understand this, we wouldn't understand why he is like this or why is she like that? It's a unsolvable perception problem. And the other party feels disrespected and hurt.
7. Time management.
Makes me spend my time better, and work a lot more enjoyable.
8. Music.
I didn't learn until 26. At the age of 8, my music teacher said I was hopeless because I was naughty, and from then on, I thought that I didn't have a flare in music...
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